# Bedtime wind-down planner for menopause sleep · Midlife Nights > Source: https://midlifenights.com/articles/bedtime-wind-down-planner-an-evening-built-from-the-nia-and-nhs-sleep-habits Insomnia and 3am waking ## Bedtime wind-down planner Put in when you go to bed and when you get up, tick what your evenings look like, and get a timed plan built from the NIA and NHS sleep advice that you can print and stick on the fridge. By Claire Holloway, 4 November 2026 The sleep habits that help in menopause are the ordinary ones, done at the right time. The [National Institute on Aging](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/menopause/sleep-problems-and-menopause-what-can-i-do) lists a regular schedule, a bedtime routine, no screens in the bedroom, a room that is neither too hot nor too cold, exercise away from bedtime, no large meals or caffeine late in the day, and no alcohol to help you sleep. The [NHS insomnia page](https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/insomnia/) puts hours on several of those: no alcohol, tea, coffee or cigarettes in the 6 hours before bed, no exercise in the last 4, and at least an hour to relax. Those rules are easy to agree with and hard to keep at 7pm with a mug in your hand. The planner turns them into clock times for your own evening. ### Plan your evening Use the times you want to keep every day, weekends included. Your sleep times Lights out The time you want to be in bed, ready to sleep. Getting up The time you get out of bed, even after a poor night. What your days and evenings include Tick any that apply. They add lines to the plan and mark the ones that are about you. Coffee, tea, cola or chocolate after lunch A drink with dinner or in the evening I smoke I exercise after work or in the evening My main meal is late Phone, tablet or TV in bed I nap in the afternoon Hot flashes or night sweats wake me I get up to pee at night Make my evening plan Start again ### How the times are worked out Every line counts back from your lights-out time. Where the NHS and NIA give an hour, the planner uses it. Where they give only a direction ("late in the day", "not close to bedtime"), it borrows the nearest figure one of them does give and says so. Nothing here is a medical rule, and the plan is the same whatever your age or stage. __The cut-offs the planner uses, counted back from lights out.__ | Habit | Cut-off | Where it comes from | | ------------------- | -------------- | ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- | | Coffee, tea, cola | 6 hours before | NHS gives 6 hours. NIA says late in the day and adds chocolate and soda. | | Alcohol | 6 hours before | NHS gives 6 hours. NIA says even small amounts make it harder to stay asleep. | | Cigarettes | 6 hours before | NHS, the same 6-hour rule | | Exercise | 4 hours before | NHS gives 4 hours, NIA 3 | | Large meal | 3 hours before | NIA, 2 to 3 hours | | Large drinks | 3 hours before | NIA gives no hour, so the planner times it with the meal | | Relax, screens away | 1 hour before | NHS asks for at least an hour to relax, NIA for no screens in the bedroom | | Same wake time | Every day | NIA and NHS, with no sleeping in after a bad night | Two rules have no clock time on either site. NIA says to avoid napping in the late afternoon or evening, and the NHS goes further and says not to nap during the day at all. Both are printed as plain advice if you tick the nap box. The cooling lines for hot nights come from NIA's [hot flashes page](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/menopause/hot-flashes-what-can-i-do): a cooler bedroom, a fan, layers of bedding you can push off, and a small amount of cold water before bed. ### A worked example A made-up reader wants lights out at 10:30pm and to be up at 6:30am. She ticks the afternoon coffee, an evening glass of wine, a 6pm gym class and night sweats. Her plan puts the last coffee and the last glass at 4:30pm. The gym class needs to be over by 6:30pm under the NHS rule, or 7:30pm under NIA's, so a 6pm class that runs for an hour fits only the looser one. Dinner is done by 7:30pm, and from 9:30pm the phone goes out of the bedroom, the window opens or the fan goes on, and she has an hour for a bath or a book. Her sleep window is 8 hours, inside the 7 to 9 hours [NIA says adults need](https://www.nia.nih.gov/health/sleep/sleep-and-older-adults), and the alarm stays at 6:30am on Saturday too. ### Why the timing matters more in menopause NIA notes that research now suggests waking from sleep may itself trigger hot flashes, rather than only the other way round. Habits that cut early waking are therefore worth more than they look. Our article on [whether hot flashes wake you or waking brings them](/articles/do-hot-flashes-wake-you-up) goes through the sleep-lab studies behind that note. Alcohol, caffeine and hot drinks are also on the NHS list of things that can bring on hot flushes, so the evening cut-offs do two jobs at once. The exercise rule is the one the research is least strict about. A large review of studies in good sleepers found evening exercise did little harm, as [exercise before bed](/articles/is-exercise-before-bed-bad) explains, so if the 4-hour rule means no exercise at all, the 3-hour version or a gentler session is a fair trade. ### My take I'd fix the getting-up time first and leave the rest for a week. It is the one habit both the NHS and NIA put at the top, it costs nothing, and once mornings are steady a sensible lights-out time tends to follow. After that I would move the last coffee, because a cut-off that early in the afternoon catches the cup most people have around four, and I'd judge the plan on two weeks of the [printable night diary](/articles/printable-night-diary-for-hot-flashes-night-sweats-and-sleep), never on one good or bad night. If heat is what wakes you, pair this with the [bedroom checklist for hot nights](/articles/bedroom-checklist-for-hot-nights-tick-what-you-have-tried). If a drink or a meal seems to bring on the evening flushes, the [two-week trigger test](/articles/hot-flash-trigger-test-a-two-week-evening-experiment) will tell you more than a general rule can. ### When habits are not enough The NHS says to see a GP if changing your sleeping habits has not helped, if you have had trouble sleeping for months, or if it is making daily life hard to cope with. NIA points women with menopausal symptoms to cognitive behavioral therapy for insomnia, which has been shown to help them sleep better. Our article on [menopause insomnia](/articles/insomnia-in-menopause) explains why it happens and how long it lasts, and [waking at 3am](/articles/menopause-waking-up-at-3am) covers the early-morning version. Everything we have written on broken nights is under [insomnia and 3am waking](/topics/insomnia-and-3am-waking). This planner turns general sleep advice from the NHS insomnia page and the NIA sleep pages into clock times. It is a routine to try, not medical advice, and it does not diagnose or treat any sleep problem. ### Questions about the planner Why does the plan stop coffee six hours before bed? That is the NHS figure for alcohol, tea and coffee. NIA only says "late in the day", so the planner uses the one rule that gives a clock time. Will these habits stop my hot flashes? Nobody can promise that. NIA lists them to help you sleep, and its research note that waking itself may set off a flash is a reason to protect the sleep you get. Heat at night has its own steps in the bedroom checklist. Can I keep my usual later bedtime at weekends? NIA asks for the same bedtime and getting-up time every day, weekends and travel included, so the plan has one set of times for all seven days. Is anything I type sent anywhere? No. The plan is worked out in your browser and nothing is saved or sent. 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